Coaching for Parents: Support for Parenting

Parenting is an adventure that can feel like your favorite roller coaster, full of amazing highs and stressful lows. Even in the best of times parenting is a huge job as we make decisions large and small, help our kids through everyday transitions, and deal with stressful moments. Add a global pandemic and local wildfires, and it all just gets harder.

With or without a pandemic, parenting coaches come alongside parents on the journey. “Coaching is about providing the tools to raise and educate children to the best of your ability. It rests on the basis that the ability and potential to be a great parent is already inside you.” (Life Coach Directory

“The first step is to understand that you are allowed to ask for help. Being a parent is a very big, important role that we are rarely prepared for. Parent coaching works on the idea that you have the answers. The job of the coach is to simply help you realise your potential and be confident in yourself.”

A parenting coach provides support that helps you gain confidence and develop your parenting skills. Some of the areas where parenting coaches often help include:

  • Parenting Style
  • Life Events
  • Work/life balance
  • Stress Management

Parenting Style

We all have a parenting style that is most comfortable to us. When co-parenting, we can sometimes find ourselves with different parenting styles that send conflicting messages to our kids. Even when solo parenting, our preferred parenting style may not be the best fit for our unique child. A parenting coach can help evaluate and calibrate parenting styles and the unique people in your family.

Life Events

A major life event can rock the equilibrium in any family. Parenting coaches can help you navigate the emotions and impact of a major life event.

Work/life Balance

Every family’s work/life balance has been challenged this year. Navigating school and work and social distancing is a stress on us all. Parenting coaches can help identify strategies to cope with these challenges.

Stress Management

Sometimes it’s not just one thing, but a whole lot of little (or big!) things that make parenting a challenge. Parenting coaches come alongside you, listening and offering new ways of managing the stressors in your family.

Richard Halpern, parenting coach at Coach4Parents in Portland, OR, sees the role as akin to a consultant. 

Says Richard, “The emphasis [of parenting coaching] is on real-time situations, enjoying life, harmony at home, and seeing parenting as an amazing adventure. Anyone can benefit from an outside perspective. We work together to explore new ways of communicating with our children in caring, safe, and non-judgemental ways.” 

“Promoting positive parent-child relationships is a lot like exercising, and increasing your family’s strengths (like working out) can be built upon. Creating a deeper connection with your children and helping them to build skills based on their age and stage of development is a great starting point.”

Richard finds that parents often reach out regarding specific struggles like bedtime battles, teeth brushing (or not), doing homework, following directions, low self esteem, too much screen time, or struggles making friends. Richard works with them to help develop tools to support their kids through these challenges.

But, Richard reminds us, there doesn’t need to be a struggle to benefit from talking to a parenting coach.  Everyone can benefit from a listening ear and another perspective.

The Parenting Success Network has partnered with Richard to provide free parent coaching to families in Benton, Lincoln and Linn Counties. Sessions are held over the phone or via Zoom teleconferencing. 

Parents in Linn, Benton, or Lincoln counties can schedule a time with Richard at Coach4Parents here. Be sure to answer YES on sign up to let him know you were referred by the Parenting Success Network (PSN).

Coaching is something that has value for every parent at all stages of the parenting journey. Parents don’t need to have a major problem to benefit from a session with a parenting coach. 

How goes my parenting? A parenting coach can help you answer that question.