Power Hour Workshop: Building Healthy, Secure Attachment

Between birth and age 5, children develop rapidly across a range of areas: physical, cognitive, communication (language), social and emotional. Social and emotional development influences a child’s self-confidence, empathy, and the ability to develop meaningful and lasting friendships.

One of the best predictors for how happy and successful a child is in adulthood, according to Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson, is the degree to which they had at least one adult consistently showing up for them throughout their childhood.

Siegel and Bryson argue that ‘showing up’ doesn’t require a lot of money, time, or energy, but is really about the quality of presence. In their book, The Power of Showing Up, they outline the four building blocks of healthy development and secure attachment: that children feel safe, seen, soothed, and secure. 

They offer the following tips:

  • Safe: We can’t always insulate a child from injury or avoid doing something that leads to hurt feelings. But when we give a child a sense of safe harbor, she will be able to take the needed risks for growth and change.
  • Seen: Truly seeing a child means we pay attention to his emotions—both positive and negative—and strive to attune to what’s happening in his mind beneath his behavior.
  • Soothed: Soothing isn’t about providing a life of ease; it’s about teaching your child how to cope when life gets hard, and showing him that you’ll be there with him along the way. A soothed child knows that he’ll never have to suffer alone.
  • Secure: When a child knows she can count on you, time and again, to show up—when you reliably provide safety, focus on seeing her, and soothe her in times of need, she will trust in a feeling of secure attachment. And thrive!

On Wednesday, March 23rd, Heather Siewell, from Hearts With A Mission, will look at how to ‘show up’ for the children in your life. Join us for this one-hour online workshop where we’ll learn how to respond and react in ways that help kids feel safe, seen, soothed, and secure.

 

Lynne Brown is a freelance writer, former Montessori teacher, and mom to seven amazing kids, some of whom now have kids of their own. She loves writing on parenting and early childhood education. You can learn more about her at www.lynnebrownwriting.com.